Author: John Medina
Here are some of my favorites:
Myth vs Truth #1
Myth: Playing Mozart to your womb will improve your baby's future match scores.
Truth: Your baby will simply remember Mozart after birth - along with many things she hears, smells and tastes in the womb. If you want her to do well in math in her later years, the greatest thing you can do is to teach her impulse control in her early years.
My point of view: What does it mean by impulse control? in layman terms, from the book and a little browse-through the internet, impulse control means that you need to work on not doing things impulsively or you need to think things through. From what i understood, i give a simple example, contohnya aku dah set dalam otak aku utk kuruskan badan, and then satu hari aku pegi jalan2 dekat mall lalu depan famous amos cookies store, tahu2 ajelah bau nye very the tempting. Controlling it means aku dengan kereknya terus berjalan tanpa beli sikit pon cookies tuh walaupon nafsu utk makan cookies tuh meluap2. ha, you get my point? itu maksudnya control of impulse. Jadi, lagi baguslah utk melatih anak2 dari kecil to control impulse at their early years. Tapi lagi afdal bagi anak dengar ayat-ayat alQuran dari dalam perut utk ketenangan jiwa mak dan baby yg dikandungnya...ye dak?
Myth vs Truth #2
Myth: Exposing your infant or toddler to language DVDs will boost his vocabulary
Truth: Some DVDs can actually reduce a toddler's vocabulary. It is true that the number and variety of words you use when talking to your baby boost both his vocabulary and his IQ. But the words have to come from you - a real, live human being.
My point of view: I strongly disagree parents yg suka bukak TV bagi baby/infants less than 2 years just to get them distracted. Tahukah anda, ada research pernah di buat oleh group of researchers at the University of Washington tentang product Disney makes, Baby Einstein DVDs, and could you tell me what the results was? They were damning. The products didn't work at all. They had no positive effect on the vocabularies of the target audience, bayi berumur dlm lingkungan 1 tahun - 2 tahun. Bagi golongan bayi yg menonton baby DVDs or videos utk setiap jam dalam sehari, mereka faham an average of six to eight fewer words than infants who did not watch them. Can you spot the harm it can caused there? Jadi, berdasarkan kajian itu, maka lagi baguslah kita menahan anak2 kecil kita dari menonton atau menyajikan mereka dgn rancangan TV ketika mereka masih dalam linkungan umur kurang dari 2 tahun. Insyallah, the more we interact with them, the more words they can absorb from us rather than they learn from TV themselves.
Myth vs Truth #3
Myth: To boost their brain power, children need French lessons by age 3 and a room piled with "brain-friendly" toys and a library of educational DVDs.
Truth: The greatest pediatric brain-boosting technology in the worlds is probably a plain cardboard box, a fresh box of crayons, and two hours. The worst is probably your new flat-screen TV.
My point of view: Teringat zaman kecik2 dulu, masa zaman takde DVD player, asal time petang je beria nak keluar rumah main baling selipar la, police entry la, masak2 la, kejar2 la, tangkap berudu dalam longkang la, semua yg libatkan fizikal aktiviti and imagination. Aku rasa, jenis permainan mcm tuh jauh lagi interesting dari dok tgk cartoon kat TV. Aku tak sure berapa ramai org agree dengan statement aku tuh, tapi there were some studies mengatakan, dgn aktiviti2 mcm tuh, kanak-kanak adalah lebih:
- Creative: On average they came up with three times as many nonstandard creative uses for specific objects (a standard lab measure) as did controls.
- Better at language: The children's use of language was more facile. They displayed a richer store of vocabulary and a more varied use of words.
- Better at problem solving
- Less stressed
- Better at memory - Play situations improved memory scores; for example, kids who pretended they were at the supermarket remembered twice as many words on a grocery list as controls
- More socially skilled - The social-buffering benefits of play are reflected in the crime statistics of inner-city kids. if low income kids were exposed to play-oriented preschools in their earliest years, fewer than 7% had been arrested for a felony by age 23. For children exposed to instruction-oriented preschools, that figure was 33%.
Jadi, biarkan anak-anak kita, bermain dengan riangnye di luar rumah tapi dengan pemerhatian kita risau pulak kes jenayah culik budak skrg nih pon makin menjadi-jadi but that's another story la. Jangan limitkan anak kita main dlm rumah ja dok ngadap iPad, TV, iphone, PS3 dan sebagainya. Not good.
Myth vs Truth #4
Myth: Continually telling your children they are smart will boost their confidence.
Truth: They'll become less willing to work on challenging problems. If you want your baby to get into a great college, praise his or her effort instead.
My point of view: Research shows that if we praise our child by their level of IQ, three things are statically likely to happen:
- our child begins to perceive mistakes as failures - the reason is because we told them that success was due to some static ability over which they had no control, they starts to think of failure, contohnye dapat markah rendah dalam exam, as a static thing, now perceived as a lack of ability. Mereka akan fikir, kejayaan adalah pemberian rather than the governable product of effort.
- as a reaction of above, they become more concerned with looking smart than with actually learning something.
- they will also become less willing to confront the reasons behind any deficiencies, less willing to make an effort. kanak-kanak ini akan mengalami kesukaran utk mengaku kesilapan. There is simply too much at stake for failure.
Jadi, ingatlah, tak salah memuji kebijaksanaan anak, tapi perbanyakkan pujian pada effort atau usaha yg di lakukan olek anak2 kita. Jika sekiranya, sesuatu yg di usahakan anak-anak kita gagal, jgn pulak pi bantai emo sebab fail, tapi puji jugak sebab dia dah berusaha utk sesuatu. amboih. mcm pakar motivasi.
Myth vs Truth #5
Myth: Children somehow find their own happiness.
Truth: The greatest predictor of happiness is having friends. How do you make and keep friends? By being good at deciphering nonverbal communications. Learning a musical instrument boosts the ability by 50 percent. Text messaging may destroy it.
My point of view: It is important for us as parents to teach our child how to socialize effectively - how to make friends, how to keep friends - in order to make them happy. Sentiasa nasihati anak-anak cara-cara berkawan yg betul, sebab as we can see, kanak-kanak yg gembira, kebanyakannya mereka bergembira dapat bermain bersama-sama rakan2 instead of gembira sorang-sorang. Jadi menjadi tanggungjawab kita, utk monitor dan ajar mereka cara utk bersosial, teach them from the early stage, insyAllah, akan memberi kesan yg positif di kemudian hari.